The mindset of God for creating the home is to have a regular fellowship with them and God does come at the cool of the day to fulfill this purpose with the first family, Adam & Eve until they abused the privilege by there disobedient.
Even today, God is still looking for homes He will be having this relationship with, and I believe you’ll be glad if your home can merit this opportunity from God. By the time you would have finished reading this post, you would have had a deep understanding of how you can build your home to be the God desired kind of home.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him, male and female created he them. (28) And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. Genesis 1:2,28;
From the verses taken above, we can see the amazingly generous thing God did for the first home. He gave them power over everything He had created before them. And He also gave them one gift which is the greatest of all, He gave them His fellowship. Every day God would come down from heaven and have fellowship with them. This was a precious gift but man failed to realize this, but the devil, however, understood the importance of God’s fellowship in the life of men and especially in the home (family), and He was bitterly jealous of man for having received that much honor and care from God.
I have said, ye are god’s and all of you are children of the most High. Psalm 32:6;
God also blessed the home to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth. So if you run a comparison of your yesterday and today and you find it’s a minus, then something is definitely wrong somewhere but God is not to blame, you are.
Another amazing thing God did for the first home, He spoke against the three porous areas of attack to mankind, attack from the powers in the air, the sea, and the earth.
God could only have done all these things because He desired peace for us and He wants us to subdue the land and give Him reports of the good we have acquired through fellowship with Him as individuals but more importantly as a family.
Humans are the extension of God on earth, that’s why we take his characteristics because we are made in His likeness. God is love thereby we also love. God is peace, that’s why we enjoy peace. But everything we have as individuals is only preliminary of what God has in mind for us. He wants us to have more on earth, but only the people that have built the God kind of homes will be able to enjoy the absolute power of His promise.
God loves homes (families) and He shows special interest in families more than He does with individuals. That’s why you’ll notice some families in the bible condemned by God and some blessed by Him.
God does not fellowship with homes that do not love, because God only dwells where there’s peace, and love thus bring peace. Also, God does not fellowship with a home that is disobedient to His will and commandments. Like with Adam & Eve, God fellowshipped with them until they disobeyed His commandment.
It’s almost impossible to have a family that will be worthy of God’s fellowship overnight, but instead, you build it.
You may believe that your family is worthy of God’s fellowship, because you love your wife or your husband, but it’s a shame, that only a home that accepts Christ as the cornerstone of their love, will be worthy of God’s fellowship. Anybody that claims to love another person without first loving Christ -who is love- has nothing more but hypocrisy.
God may not come down to fellowship with you in the physical form like He did with Adam and Eve, but every home that has God fellowship prospers in all ways and are blessed beyond human reasoning. i.e where other suffers they prosper, when others get sick they live in good health with their children, and when others are thrown in deep thoughts and confusion they wax through all situations with smiles on their faces. Practically, God does everything for the family He fellowship with like He did for Adam and Eve. He feeds them, clothes them, endows them with good health and other things good, and all they need to do is to continue in obedience to the word of God.
However, we’ve learned that God desires a loving and peaceful home where He’s welcomed. But having such a perfect home is not as easy as chewing a candy, in fact, it can be a hard nut to crack, except both couples have prepared themselves in the way of God, even more appropriately before their marriage.
The best way to build a perfect home where God will delight to have fellowship is to prepare it before getting married. That is the perfect time to architect your home the way it will please God. And for this reason, you have obligations to fulfill as singles.
Preparing A Godly Kind Of Home As A Spinster
A young woman expecting to have a blissful marriage must possess certain attributes that will attract a responsible man. I mean it’ll take special grace for a lady living a wayward and reckless life to find a responsible man to marry, except she first comes to repentance and forsakes the old ungodly life. Because birds of the same feathers attract their own kinds.
One of the primary things to do in order to prepare your marriage for God is to give your life to Christ and live a righteous life in Christ Jesus. Another important thing to do is to help your parents with house chores and even their relationship. Your parents don’t need a divorce; all they need is someone to help make them see the good things about each other that the devil has thought them to ignore. When you help your parents relationship, you’re attracting God’s interest in your own relationship. Because God doesn’t delight in broken homes.
And while he yet spake with them, Rachel came with her father’s sheep, for she kept them. Gen 29:9;
Can you see from that scripture? Rachel was a lady, a pretty lady so to speak, yet she set aside her pride and her beauty and she kept her father’s sheep. You see, that’s the kind of actions that attracts God’s blessing. Rachel was humble enough to help keep her father’s sheep and this is one of the attributes that attracted Jacob to her, that he was willing to work for seven years just so he could get married to her.
Maybe your parents are not cattle rearers, but you need to show humility to your parents and everyone around you, that way you’ll attract a good man that will be willing and ready to build the God kind of home with you.
Do not be the covetous type of lady’s that keep jumping from one man to the other, all in the disguise of finding the perfect man. A point to note, you don’t find the perfect man, the perfect man will find you if you possess the right attributes as listed herein!
Mary the mother of our Lord Jesus didn’t search for the perfect man but instead was possessed with Godly attributes, and she was blessed. And God gave her a husband (Joseph) who was a believer and was also understanding of the things of God, and they both built a kind of home that attracted God’s fellowship.
Lastly, you need to be prayerful. Prayer is the master key, and with it, you can shape your life according to God’s will and found your future home in God’s word.
Preparing A Godly Kind Of Home As A Bachelor
To be a future good husband you need to be a good bachelor first. Old habits die hard, and however you live your life today, is likely to be how you’ll live it tomorrow.
As always, the first thing is always to be sure of your salvation in Christ Jesus. Nothing can work without Christ! No, not your life nor your future marriage.
Also, you need to live a responsible life even as a bachelor. One of the earlier signs of being responsible is securing a good job. It doesn’t matter if you’re self-employed or works for a company or person, you just need to have something doing to make money. God may not be pleased with the home of a man that can’t provide for his own family.
But if any provide not for his own, and specially to those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8;
Besides securing a good job before marriage, you need also to abstain yourself from youthful exuberance. Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 2 Timothy 2:22;
Living a life outside of God’s will may seem pleasing but it only destroys everything you have now and can have in the future like a good marriage that is pleasing enough to God to warrant His fellowship.
Lastly, don’t read but study God’s word and pray without ceasing. By doing as explained herein, you would have set yourself and your marriage apart for success, and God will delight upon you and have fellowship with your household and bless you and your seed forever.
Choosing A Marriage Partner
Maybe you have fulfilled all of the obligations explained as a spinster or bachelor and now you believe you’re ready for marriage. You need to take more care at this juncture. See the devil understands that the best way to destroy someone is to destroy the one thing God so cherish about His children -marriage-, and He will do all in His best to ensure you chose the wrong person to marry. Although he will have a slim chance at success if you’ve done your part well as a bachelor or spinster and live according to God’s will, still that doesn’t stop him from trying just as He did with Adam and Eve.
Abraham understood the importance of choosing the right marriage partner. And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh (3) And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites among whom I dwell. Genesis 24:2,3;
We now live in a generation of a mixed multitude, Christ has brought us all together. Anybody who accepts Christ as his/her Lord and Savior is now a child living in the promised land of grace, truth, and forgiveness. Thereby, making it almost impossible to decide if someone is of God or not of God based on their country of birth like they did in the time of Abraham.
And Isaac called Jacob, and bless him, and charged him and said unto him, thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan. Genesis 28:1;
The Canaan of the present time is a person or group of people that do not believe in the salvation of Christ Jesus and has not given their lives to Christ. Of course, now you can marry from whatever country you so please, Canaan or any other country is perfectly fine, but you shouldn’t marry anyone who is not born again; i.e, don’t marry someone who has not accept Jesus as his/her Lord and Savior. If you do, that can be the beginning of terrible things; even things worse than losing fellowship with God.
Before marriage, you need to pray and begin your search from among the people who have given their lives to Christ. Prayer is necessary because some people may pretend to belong to Christ but they are not of Christ. They are just wolves in sheep clothing. But if you pray, God will open your eyes to see them for whom they truly are before it’s too late.
You can find marriage partners in your church or through many Christian dating websites online.
But if after doing these things, it seems like you’re not getting what you desire from your marriage then you can boldly go to God in prayer and report to Him concerning the marriage He has set up for you. Just like Adam did, but not exactly how He did it. Because, in the context, it almost seems like he was trying to shift the blame on God for giving Him the wrong partner instead of going first to God and beg on behalf of them both, and ask for grace.
And he said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. Genesis 3:12;
So, whenever something is not right in your family and you’re sure what you desire is God’s will for the home where He fellowship, go to Him in prayer but do not condemn Him or anyone before God. Instead, beg for His grace to set your family right according to His will and promises. God is generous and merciful especially to His children, and if your family has been founded on His truth. He will establish that which you ask Him even before you know it.
Your Responsibility As A Christian Husband
Now, that you’ve searched with prayer and have chosen your partner, you still have responsibilities as a Christian husband.
One of the many responsibilities of a Christian husband and the most important one is to love your wife with all your heart. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Ephesians 5:25;
You can’t find it in the holy bible where it says: Wife, love your husband. This is because women love naturally. The reason for this is because Eve was created after Adam so as to love Him. And even when God cursed man He even made it so that a woman desire will be to please her husband.
A lot of men will abusively use a woman because of their God-given nature of love towards man.
A man’s responsibility is to appreciate, cherish and care for his wife. You can see from the scripture above the yardstick that God used to measure how much a man must love his wife. The bible used Christ love for the church as a measure of how a man must also love his wife. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8;
Christ love for us wasn’t because we deserved it, His love for us was just natural and baseless. He just loves! That’s the same way you should love your wife, irrespective of whether or not she deserves your love.
Love your wife unconditionally and always appreciate her!
You may compete with Einstein in regards to knowledge, but don’t bring that to your home. Deal with your wife according to her level of knowledge and let her know your wish with love, respect, and affections. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7;
From the scripture above, you can see that a husband who doesn’t honor his wife will have his prayers hindered and God cannot fellowship in the house of such a man. Be humble with your wife and love her, just as Christ loved us and humbled himself enough to die for us.
Another responsibility of a Christian husband is to provide for the needs of his family. This is why it is important that a Christian should secure a good job even as a bachelor. Of course, a wife can help her husband financially, but the responsibility of taking care of the house needs should not be shifted completely on the woman’s shoulder, only shared.
Lastly, a Christian husband must not suffer his wife sexually, or the wife her husband. It improves intimacy. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1 Corinthians 7:5;
Your Responsibility As A Christian Wife
As a Christian wife, you should be submissive to your husband totally as unto the Lord. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:22;
God equates the relationship between the husband and wife as the one between Christ and the church. You know Christ may not always grant some request of the church, or even when He will grant the request He doesn’t necessarily do it at the time that they believe is best because He knows best. But that doesn’t stop the church from honoring God and praising Him, and being in total submissiveness to His will. The same should be how a good Christian wife lives with her husband.
Your husband may not always do something that makes you happy, but you have to remain completely submissive to him and his will. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:24;
A wise woman will see her husband as the church sees Christ, and accord him respect as the church respect Christ. Not in some things, but in all things.
The wife has the power to build her own house or destroy it. Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1; Therefore be the woman that build her own house, and not the one that destroys it.
Sara was a good woman, she was very respectful and obedient to her husband and his will, and God favored her. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 1 Peter 3:6;
God expects all woman to be with their husband as Sara was to Abraham. By so doing, you’ll build your house and God will fellowship with your household.
In conclusion, God takes more interest in family more than He does individuals and any family that does according to His will and live according to His law and commandments, He will have fellowship with that family, and He will give them all things and bless the seed of that household and give them the power to overcome the word.
Build the God-kind of homes, and you’ll have everything in him.
I’m certain you are blessed reading this post. You, however, have an obligation to share this post on social networks so as to help others build their own God-kind of homes, and as you do so, may God continue in fellowship with your household. Amen!